• Sit quietly for a moment after you begin to becalm your thoughts.

• Make a list of some of the people with whom you have important relationships.

• These people are often called significant others and include relationship partners, family members, friends, colleagues and your superiors at work. Review your list.

• Decide how you can specifically choose to look for the good in these significant others before acting or reacting.

• Now decide how you can specifically choose to look for the good in all situations before acting or reacting.

• Write down these specific methods. This way you can revisit your ideas and track their effectiveness and outcomes.