• Sit quietly for a moment after you begin to becalm your thoughts.

• Think of something which you find mildly irritating.

• Think about how you feel about it, what it means to you, how you react to it, and what else?

• Take a few deep breaths ……. and breathe more slowly …. breathe out for twice as long as you ….. breathe in slowly …… and reread the previous two paragraphs of this section.

• With this in mind ask yourself the question: What can I do, regardless of what others are doing or will think, to change this situation? Briefly write down your answer.

• How do you feel about it now? Differently? If so, write down how and, can you think why?

• If not; start again and repeat until you feel differently.